Wednesday, 23 April 2014

Types of Friends and their Priorities

   Life must have been simpler those days, when a friend was just a friend; neither more nor less than that. But today, things are a bit complicated. A friend is no more just a friend, he is categorized either as  good-friend, 
best-friend, boy-friend, virtual friend, friend-with-benefits, etc. The value of friendship between two friends is governed by the priority they give to each other.
 I am sure that this category list would grow with time, but the quality of friendship may decline! Anyway, I would like to think about it optimistically, rather than criticizing it.

A bit of philosophy: (sorry friends, I know that philosophy is boring, but please read it)

Charles Darwin, popularly known as the father of evolution, has said a beautiful quote: "It is not the strongest of the species that survives, nor the most intelligent that survives. It is the one that is most adaptable to change."
But apart from all the species, we humans are different. We have a brain that thinks and a heart that feels. Thus, we not only have to adapt physically but mentally as well. That is why, it is said that one must change with time. Hence, we must place ourselves in this fast-forward world and get comfortable with it.

Type of friends:
 (I have tried to figure out what happens in these relations. Though, I may be wrong)

1) Good friend:
This type of friends may be your classmates in college or  colleagues in your office. You generally like their attitude and are well known about their behavior. A friend whom you know for many years, a friend made in school days, also come under this category. You feel comfortable on hanging out with them, and talk about day-to-day stuffs like news, cricket match, sharing jokes, etc.

2) Best friend:
This friend is a favorite among all good friends. Though you can have more than one best friend. You can share with him all your secrets as he is a trustworthy person for you, and readily available for you whenever you face any problem. Generally, the person who helps you and understands you the most, has the potential to be your best-friend.

3) Boyfriend/Girlfriend:
romantic relation
This person holds highest priority. Here, the two people act as semi-married and semi-friends. This is the most impulsive form of friendship where two people come close very soon and get committed, but if break-up happens, they behave as if they don't even know each other. It would be difficult to describe this relation as it is a very vast topic. At present, this is the most booming thing on TV serials, films and boy-girl romantic stories.

4) Friend with benefits:
Well, this relation is pretty fast-forward. It is completely sexually oriented, where two parties are only physically attracted to each other. Here, there is no commitment, thus the person is free to move-on anytime. As more and more people are accepting it and consider it hassle-free; it won’t be wrong to say that in future, this relation will be the most trending one.

5) Virtual friend:
online friends
This is the newest category of friendship, evolved with the advent of social-networking sites and chat applications. A virtual friend can hide his identity, and thus both the parties can chat openly, without any shyness. It is very easy to make a virtual friend than a real friend. But this type of friend is very dangerous, as you are unaware of his intentions. Though it can also be a soothing one, if the virtual friend is a genuine person. The greatest advantage is that you can avoid your loneliness by chatting with a virtual friend, in case your real friends are not having time for you.

 (my view on friendship, you may find it weird)
 I believe that every person desires a friend who understands and accepts him without any selfish motive; in short, a friend who is genuine. But finding such a friend will take you your entire life, and even then, there is no guarantee that you will find him. Ultimately you will end-up loving a dog.
true friend

So, rather than finding a genuine friend, you become a genuine friend to others. And if every person does this, the world will be a very friendly place.